Bellesa 101: Edging

Have you ever been so close to cumming - and then didn’t? Okay, now follow-up question: have you ever been so close to cumming but didn’t - by choice? Here’s everything you need to know about edging!

What is edging? 

Essentially, it’s building up your stimulation for a more intense orgasm. Think of it as a slow buildup of stop and go. And right when you’re on the edge of pure bliss, you stop and build that tension right back up. You’re literally teasing yourself. Edging aims to extend your pleasure for longer periods of time and it could give you a more intense orgasm. You can practice edging alone, with a partner (or partners); but if you’re a little bit unsure about trying it with partners, first try it on your own.

Here’s how to practice:

1. Stimulate yourself to the point of climax 

Stimulate yourself just to the point of an orgasm. Stimulating yourself looks different from person to person, so whatever feels good for you, do that! 

2. Stop simulation or change things up 

Stop stimulation or change the intensity right before climax. So for example, if you’re using a vibrator on yourself and you’re right there - turn down the speed. Or, if you’re with a partner, this might involve changing positions or activities. This doesn’t mean you need to completely stop what you’re doing, but going at it at a slower pace. 

3. Take breaks to reset your body 

Be sure to pause for a short period of time. This can bring your body back to almost zero without allowing you to regain your composure for another, and another, and another round. Short breaks will allow you to go longer and for a more fulfilling release. 

4. Increase your stimulation 

Now that you’ve composed yourself and your body is somewhat settled but you’re still craving that O - increase the stimulation! Maybe adding in some nipple play, some butt stuff, whatever gets you there. 

5. Repeat until you’re ready to orgasm 

Lastly, repeat and repeat until you’re ready for your final release. Edging doesn’t have to be always focused on the physical. It could be as simple as flirting all night long with some prolonged eye contact, or some good old nasty dirty talk describing what you wanna do to the other person. It can also be focused on foreplay without any insertion - anything that gets you excited and builds you up for an orgasm!