The difference between financial domination and being a sugar baby

By Alison Stevenson

So, you want some guy to give you his money, but how do you want to go about it? Well, if you’ve been intrigued by the thought of financial domination, don’t expect it to be anything like a sugar daddy/baby relationship. The two are very different, financial domination involving a key component that sugar dating does not: domination.

There is a major difference between being a sugar baby and being in a financial domination relationship

Heterosexual sugar dating is pretty much the kind of rich guy/spoiled girl relationship we typically see in pop culture. Not all sugar daddies are rich, but the dynamic is usually that of a wealthier man paying for the lifestyle of a younger woman. Sexual favors might be expected in return, but many sugar daddies simply like having a beautiful woman on their arm to show off, spoil, or even mentor, and that’s it. 

Financial domination falls under the wide umbrella of BDSM

As opposed to most sugar dating, heterosexual financial domination pins the receiver of money as the dominant, while the giver of money is submissive. Financial dommes are expected to ridicule, boss around, and maybe even embarrass their financial slaves. Financial slaves are turned on by the humiliation and degradation. They want their domme to demand money from them, and usually there is limited physical interaction between the two. Financial slaves can also be referred to as paypigs, wallets, payslaves, etc. The list goes on. 

If you’re already intrigued or have dabbled in BDSM, and have enjoyed being dominant, then financial domination just might be a great next step for you. However, the number one mistake a lot of women make is thinking that it’s an easy job to do. Being a domme can be mentally exhausting, and it involves a lot of creativity on your part, as well as a good amount of communication with your subs. You might be asked to take part in other fetishes or kinks in which your sub is interested, such as cock ownership or chastity play. 

Sugar daddy/baby relationships are more about companionship and affection 

The sugar daddy/baby relationship might be better for those who lean towards being submissive, or desire more human interaction. Your sugar daddy will want to spend time with you in-person, and give you gifts and presents as a sort of reward for being there for them. 

Personally, I have dabbled in financial domination after experimenting with more traditional domination. I found that I prefer financial domination because I am much more into the psychological aspects of BDSM than the physical. I revel in being worshipped, as well as in humiliating and teasing, but I don’t really like the act of spanking, whipping, flogging, etc. Through financial domination, I found that I could have a sub to communicate with over the phone and engage in the elements of domination that I enjoy, all the while getting some Amazon gift cards out of the deal. 

On top of that, I don’t think I could be a sugar baby even if I tried, because truth be told, most sugar babies are expected to fit a specific standard of beauty. The idea is that sugar babies are spoiled and given lavish gifts in large part due to their more conventional physical appeal. I can’t remember the last time I went to the gym or even had a manicure. Of course, this is a generalization, and I’m sure there are daddies out there who would love a chubby schlubby lady like me. I just haven’t set out to find them because of my predilection for domination over submission. 

Sugar babies can definitely be bossy, and make demands though. However, ridicule and degradation is not something most sugar daddies want or expect. They tend to prefer being in charge and desire their sugar baby to reciprocate positive and affectionate feelings toward them.

Both can work depending on what you’re looking for, but set boundaries in both scenarios

At the end of the day, whichever one you find yourself gravitating toward, be sure to be safe and take precautions while you do it. Never give away personal information, especially your address, and if you’re going to meet someone in-person make sure it starts in a public setting. Your safety comes first, before anything. The thought of receiving money sure is exciting, take it from someone struggling to pay her rent, but it’s not worth risking your life. Trust your instincts, and take things slow if you have to. The right paypig or daddy will wait for you until you’re ready.  

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